IMPROVE the Moment Over the Holidays

Dialectical Behavior Therapy focuses on the teaching and reinforcing of four major areas of skills: Mindfulness Practice, Distress Tolerance, Interpersonal Effectiveness, and Emotion Regulation.

I happen to believe that these skills are helpful for everyone. I mean, most of us have had moments — and sometimes longer — that can feel intolerable and during which we can find ourselves saying, “I can’t stand this.” It’s during a time like this that DBT skills can be very helpful, particularly Mindfulness (awareness that we are experiencing distress) and Distress Tolerance (skills meant to help us move effectively from this moment to the next). Anyone can use them to make a current situation better.

On November 20, 2016, I had the honor of speaking at Sunday Assembly Atlanta. My topic was using the DBT skill “IMPROVE the Moment” during the Holiday season. Here’s a link to this speech. I hope you find something in it for you this season.

Welcome!

It seems as though I’ve been on quite a few simultaneous journeys for sometime now— adulthood, marriage, step-parenting, motherhood, career change from teacher to therapist, and now private practice. This space represents the latter journey, although parts of my other adventures will inevitably show up here as they frequently do in my therapy with clients. Even my office is a reflection of my past and my present, previous aspects of my life experience holding space with representations of my current self and the selves of those I’m closest to. I share all of these in the space I hold with my clients.

I have frequently not known the path given journeys would take and have frequently been surprised by the turns. My plans for becoming a teacher, for instance, initially included returning to my hometown and giving back in the school system that nourished my early life experience. Instead, I found myself moving overseas to spend most of my career exploring other countries and cultures and seeing places I had only read about previously—Australia (a potential visit here was my reason for moving overseas in the first place), Paris, France, and Egypt, just to name a few. When I decided to change careers, my plan for my counseling practice were very different from what they’ve become, and I’m happy that they’ve led me here to Dialectical Behavior Therapy, and to you, and an office of my own, that I seek to share with you.

I’m nervous and excited about this journey, and I’m happy to have you along with me! Please stay tuned as I continue to update this site with information that I have found to be important for myself and family, as well as for my clients.


“Not I, nor anyone else can travel that road for you.
You must travel it by yourself.
It is not far. It is within reach.
Perhaps you have been on it since you were born, and did not know.
Perhaps it is everywhere – on water and land.”
Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass